Part of the Package

Bezzie sent me this picture today and it brought to mind this issue about boyfriends and friends.

He ain't heavy, he's my bezzie's hubby

One of my requirements for my boyfriends (past and future) is this: "Love me, love my friends."

Or at the very least, try to grin and bear with them because like it or not, they are an extension of me. The more you know them, the more you would find out about me because birds of a feather generally flock together.

But what happens when my friends don't get along well with my boyfriend? Is it ok for me to expect them to accept him as part of me as well?

Bezzie and I have concluded that we'd probably never understand why we are attracted to guys that the other wouldn't touch with a ten-feet pole. When she started dating HS, sparks flew between HS and I - and it's not in a good way. HS has an uncanny knack of irritating me to no end. At one point, poor bezzie was wringing her hands in utter despair.

"I love the two of you but the both of you couldn't get along. Whom should I side with??"

I remember telling her that she should side him since they are going to be one in marriage and should not let anyone or anything come between them. And that as long as he treats her with tender loving care and is faithful to her, I would hold nothing against him. But could he please lay off his teasings and jibes towards me?

He did try (and failed!) and tried again and I like to think that we are in a good place now. The last time I conversed with him to arrange a surprise call for bezzie, he was so nice and obliging. A definite ally when it comes to treating our beloved Rina well.

While it can be hard to picture him tagging along her almost every time we meet up when she comes down here or if I go there for a visit, it's really part of the package. I love her, so I have to learn to get along with him the best way I know how. And likewise bezzie dearie, when it's my turn to have a partner whom you roll your eyes upon, I'd expect the same from you. Yes, we are big girls now but it means the world to us when our loved ones accept the person we choose as our boyfriend/life partner. A little support goes a long way.