Wednesday, July 26. 2006

Rather Be Solo Than With a Bozo

It's a repetition of the same old story. Just different players. Boy meets girl. Boy hooks up with girl. Girl wants to go the next level of commitment after a few years had rolled by. Boy is unsure of what he really wants. Boy gets stuck in second gear. Girl feels confused and rejected.

It's a very sad situation. Perhaps worsened because it's such a common occurence. I wished I had better news to give to my young friend. At least something other than, "Cut your losses NOW. Don't waste any more time on this loser."

The reason she hung on for so long was because she believes he will change. A belief that has no basis, if you ask me. The man has a weak, selfish character. Not willing to give her the time of his day - not even when she needed him most - and she's not the needy type. Her friends treat her better than he does. A diamond in the rough? I don't think so. More like a dull, cheap, seedy stone that can never shine no matter how much you rub on it.

I think she saw some light after our conversation. She smiled when I said that it's better to be solo than remain with a bozo.

She's praying for strength to endure. I pray that she will see the facts of the situation as it is and for her to see his true heart. Not hoping that a pig's ear will suddenly transform into a golden purse. That's magic and we don't believe in that now, do we?

Or maybe I'm wrong about him (and I hope I am) not being a diamond in the rough. In which case, I hope this guy wakes up soon and smell the roses before his long-suffering and lovely girlfriend walks out on him for good.
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*Awwww... Peekaboo, my heart goes out to you. You need to do what you need to do, babe. Hugs
#1 coolcat (Homepage) on 2006-07-26 10:23 (Reply)
*This post struck a chord oh so very close to home. :-(
#2 Anonymous on 2006-07-26 09:53 (Reply)
*Hehe, it does, doesn't it?

Gosh, I hope that's not why my fren smiled. Hmmmmm..
#3 Anonymous on 2006-07-26 21:36 (Reply)
*i like the title: rather solo than bozo - it rhythm!
#4 Anonymous on 2006-07-26 16:47 (Reply)
*Okay. I have been asked by CC to give my 2sens on this issue. I thought I already did on yahoo chat, but anyway here's what i told CC via yahoo.

O: young guys dont know what is important ie. their values in transition, they value - coolness, looks, less hassle, etc
O: but when a relationship gets down to serious and difficult
O: their values take a knock and they start wondering.what they are really into so.. my advice as always to girls is not to date too young
O: young men are like punks
O: just want want want
CC: thank God not all are punks
CC: (speaking on behalf of my married frens who married young men)
CC: heh heh
CC: but i agree with u
O: sorry
O: those who married young fellas
O: sorry for the wife man
CC: lol
O: if ur fren is unfortunate enough to be the lover of this
O: young man from uni/college
O: and the dating has been for yonks
O: i think its time to cut the loses
CC: yep
O: my guess was right
O: more than 80% of
CC: that's wat i told her

O: relationship starting in school end in separation
O: and high chance is that the girl lose their virginity in the process
O: deep hurt and heartbreak and feeling of betryal
CC: yep
O: not surprise
O: its statistics
CC: her first love
CC: it's grim
O: also most young men are into the sex drive thing
O: and girls are just plain curious
O: so..
CC: sad lar
O: if the guy has not grown up to smell the coffee
O: its hard to stick with a punk
CC: and the thing is,the guy doesn't sound like a man of character
CC: he sounds like a punk
O: lagi
CC: not a diamond in the rough
O: its just sad and painful to hear
O: so many of our youth are caught in this
CC: i wish i could give her hope
O: I blame MTV,
CC: but there doesn't seem to be any
CC: i dowan to give her false hope
O: we can only say cut the loses
CC: but the prognosis is bad

O: ultimately she needs to ask whether the guy is going to be a good husband to her children
O: if the guy isnt remotely interested in others
O: or just preoccupied with "ME" needs its not going anywhere
O: ultimately in a relationship
O: EACH PARTY GIVES
O: LOVE IS UNSELF_CENTERED
O: A selfcentered person cannot love and if the guy is like that . end it
CC: i fully agree
CC: better to be solo than with bozo
O: ok
CC: :-P
O: yah
O: blog that
CC: thanks, man

O: title for blog
CC: hee hee
O: RATHER SOLO THAN BOZO
CC: hee hee
#5 Anonymous on 2006-07-27 04:21 (Reply)
*Ok, at least got guy's perspective here. But adoi, you go n paste the whole conversation ar??
#6 coolcat (Homepage) on 2006-07-27 04:27 (Reply)
*bizzy lah. banyak kerja. my own blog also tak da masa. I am not fully time blogger like u lah. ada banyak kerja banyak dateline. How come u so free one in Glueballs Capital?
#7 Anonymous on 2006-07-27 04:53 (Reply)
*Bcos I went offline, that's why :-P Eh, your current preoccupation is Zoe babe. Mine is my blog. Different priorities mar ;-)
#8 coolcat (Homepage) on 2006-07-27 04:54 (Reply)

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